Minyan gal
I agree with you completely. No one should strive for mediocrity. My point was that we often get caught up in wanting the “package” to be complete beforehand. This is where I think the problems lay. I have cousins who married very young who later went for graduate degrees and doctorates. There’s no reason someone can’t strive to reach their potential and do their best, but I think it’s a mistake to either strive to complete this before marriage or only meet those who have accomplished this beforehand. If someone says being average is enough for them, that may be a red flag. On the other hand, if someone says “I have goals and I strive to accomplish them with time” that’s another story.