“…it shouldnt be a chiddush that a Yid does something good, but by you it obviously is…”
There we go. The sentence is dripping with condescension and sarcasm.
If you’re ok with criticizing others, you should be ok taking constructive respectful criticism yourself.
If you learn about tochacha, it must be done with ahavas chinam and good feelings, not by telling people off.
You sound like an intelligent guy into self-improvement.
If this is the case, kindly look into what you may possibly learn from this tochacha.
And your point that one should not remark on good things but only the bad, well then, why bother davening ????? ???? each day? According to your line of thinking, it shouldn’t be a chiddush that Hashem does all these wonderful things….
In fact, why repeat it DAILY,for we just said those great things about Hashem yesterday? It’s to train US for OUR OWN benefit and to learn from it.
The idea is ahavas chinam with BALANCE. One cannot constantly bring out the flaws in others without the good stuff. Btw, this style doesn’t work in ANY relationship.
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