You have to make that decision based on what is important to you.
I was in the same situation for years but each family’s dynamics are different. I didn’t take my children out but instead had a babysitter in the home who helped with the housework and my husband pitched in as well. I was not so makpid on getting my kids to bed early – because by the time I got home at 5 – I wanted to spend some quality time with them – so they went to bed more in the 8-9 range. I was out of the house by 7:30-8:00 and usually got home at around 5.
I always felt that it was important to be more relaxed than tense with getting the perfect suppers ready and keeping the house perfect – clean was very important – neat not as much – but again I did have help in the house. If that is at all possible – it is a huge help.