Popa, Its a totally different life, marring someone working or learning
Sure is. It is also totally different being a doctor or a farmer. But you can be an ???? ? in any one of them.
This is not controversial; everyone agrees to this. Even the biggest learning people agree that if you can’t live you should work.
If you can’t find a learning boy to marry, then you should marry someone else. Nobody disagrees with this.
The focus here is “what does Hashem want”. That is the only thing that matters in the world.