popa, of course you could still be and oved Hashem!and I’m not saying working boys are 2nd class at all!just if someone wants to live that kind of life of learning why should she not be able to because of the messed up priorities of our society??
Sometimes being an ???? ? means you don’t get to live exactly as you want to.
Sometimes being human means that also.
If you really think that you will be serving Hashem to your ability marrying a working boy, and you just like the kollel lifestyle because you think it’s fun or your friends are doing it, then I really have nothing to say.