a few points…
1-and now for a dose of reality…..do you know what its like for a woman to be the only/primary breadwinner at a good job and have a family….its very tough….personally I work with one and its not a happy situation…..corporate america is demanding and if you dont work hard and produce there are 1000 other people who will take your job
2-dont take the attitude and complain we are not wealthy why cant we get boys for our daughter and then say but my son….ohhh he is special he needs major bucks so we will balance out
3-lets face it-money begets kavod, friends (as long as the check clears-yes thats a life lesson but true). You do need money to live, pay bills, tuition and its not cheap
4-sounds great in seminary, kollel long term, you know what that means or you looked at your teachers apt in Israel who is being supported-defrost a little so that you dont wind up marrying at 37
By all means to I address this to woking people and Kollel people be an oveid Hashem, work on your bitachon and emunah, work on simchas HaChaim, being happy with what you have (by the way many poor girls have big demands like Tory Birch, Prada etc so it depends on the person), always remember to contribute to the Klal your unique talents