Reply To: Comparing yourself to others

Everything. Where do I begin?

I look at my life and I realize I’m having trouble in each and every area. I had a sibling die, a parent become seriously ill, I married someone who doesn’t treat me well, isn’t frum the way I want, has parnasah issues, I had fertility issues, then I had (b”h) a child who now has academic issues, social issues, behavioral issues, and now I’m having issues having more children because my husband isn’t attracted to me.

So, I look at friends and see they’re building their families, having children, buying homes, their kids don’t have any major issues. I find myself pulling away from people to not expose myself to this pain of comparing myself. I feel like I’m being tested in every area of my life, or I don’t merit any divine assistance. How else can I interpret everything that’s happening to me (maybe that’s my real question)?