Reply To: Comparing yourself to others

C shapiro…I’m going to look into the book… Thank you.

Am YISRAEL… The part about the Satan helps me understand a bit about what’s happening, sothanks.

Aries… I’m working on myself for the very reasons you state. I need to feel good about myself so I can feel like I don’t have to accept maltreatment. It’s just a very slow process so I get discouraged sometimes…

I think it would help to hear what others tell themselves so as not to feel bad when times are tough for a really long time.

Kol daveed… I think what’s hard for me is trying to tease out what part of this was self imposed torture (I had loads of shidduch opportunities and chose someone I knew had a past of issues). Did HKB’H make me marry him? Leah imeinu could have married esav, but she Davened for a better outcome. She chose better. I did not. So it’s hard for me to understand that HKB’H wanted THIS for me. If a person hurts themselves can they

say HKB’H wanted it??

Tomche… I know intellectually that one can never know what someone else is experiencing. I also care about my friends and wish them only well. I don’t wish them less, I only wish myself more and I can’t understand why I feel so stuck for so long. It’s disheartening.

Tomche… Thanks for responding.