I think certain schools do focus on midos. The girls that I’ve met from YOB have the best midos I’ve seen. It’s noticeable.
In general, academia is what’s most valued. Frankly, I think life skills is the most important thing to teach. IMHO, there need to be staff who work closely with students on developing confidence, the ability to work and think as part of a team (and part of that is midos), skills that allow students (on a basic level) to earn a living once they graduate (bookkeeping classes, etc). Kids are graduating and are pushed into shidduchim quickly, but lack the skills to be part of a marriage.
I agree with you. I think our school systems have gotten lost in the system.