<rant> I’m a bit surprised by some of the views in this thread.
I don’t understand how you can have a relationship with your spouse and be hiding elements of yourself from them. It doesn’t matter if it is in your past or in your future; it is part of you.
If you are afraid to tell your spouse something, that means she doesn’t have a relationship with you. She has a relationship with the person she thinks you are. I don’t want someone to have a relationship with ME.
I don’t see the purpose of such a relationship. You don’t get anything out of it, because you think that if your wife knew who you were she would reject you.
Well, why would you want a wife who rejects you? </rant>