Reply To: help!!!!!!!!!!

Hacham – I’m doing that 🙂 do you know how many of my texts to her say “air hug” 🙂

bombmaniac – I heard about it here and my family NEVER gets these magazines but that week I was by someone who had Ami and that was the only article I read. 🙂 I should tell her that someone else went through what she did and she’s not alone, she’ll come out ok. So to answer your suggestions in order: she is seeing a therapist, so that’s taken care of. She did try living somewhere else but because of some issues she wasn’t able too and she doesn’t want to leave her home for complicated reasons, so how can she manage the situation while living at home for now at least?

I don’t really understand the dependency thing – do you mind explaining it to me a little clearer? Oh and I do, she knows my house is her house, my mother is her second mother…but it’s still not her house.

Also, she’s very passive so if her mother says ok you can’t have I don’t know something that someone needs she just stands by and listens. So when she tells me these things should I just be there or should I tell her to stand up for herself and stop trying to appease her mother cuz it’s not going to help (she did realize that already, but still…)

adorable – thanks for that. Yeah, I’m not there for the hock and thankfully she’s knows that.

coffee addict – I wish it was that simple for her. But it’s slightly different since aren’t you married with a kid? But does that mean it’s never going to change???

The reason that I’m posting this now is because she’s giving off vibes (for lack of a better word right now) that she is giving up – in everything. She has medical problems and doesn’t want to get help for them anymore, and now for these at home issues….she’s losing hope in life, the world, and probably even Hashem (even though she’s been very strong throughout) how do I help her????

observanteen – amen 🙂 thanks for that.

aries2756 – let’s just say she’s a teenager, but an older one. Does that help? (I hope this doesn’t sound fresh, that’s not my intention at all) but what difference does it make?

MPC – sorry that’s slang (at least where I come from) for a therapist.