Bombmaniac, I know you’re strong enough with yourself that you don’t need my 2cents or approval, however I just want to tell you that me and my husband read your story above about what you did to defend yourself against your mother’s violent attacks,and we believe you did the right thing. I am sure it was uncomfortable for you to do it.
I want to tell you that one technique I have implemented in my healing is what we call
RAH
R=realize/recognize (the situation for what it was)
A=accept it happened
H=heal, and move on. Throw it all overboard and don’t look back.
I grew up with a antisocial, angry, violent, emotional abusive mother also. On one hand she was sometimes nice, and exceptionally loving and sincere. And then she would turn…
I heard once from a professor in a course in psychology I took in college that this is the worse form of abuse. To be sometimes nice and sometimes not. Its like a dog that is sometimes approachable and sometimes snaps and attacks.
Its psychologically damaging!
The moment I shut the door on my mother, (psychologically & emotionally) I finally felt safe. Its sad but this is the way it has to be. I will not tolerate her abuse any longer, either.