old man: None of the many Poskim I am personally familiar with would do something so utterly irresponsible on such a serious issue as to “Quote a lenient psak from a different posek”” or “Send the questioner to a doctor who “will tell you what needs to be done”” without first issueing a difinitive Psak Halacha.
Certainly your statement “he may not even agree with the heter. But in the final analysis, it gets done and it gets done quickly and quietly” is extremely shoking!!!
I really wonder which “Poskim” you know???