Reply To: midwives..

Golden Mom:”i definitly think it is a problem she obvious is not from such a sheltered home! and it might be looked down upon in terms of shidduchim” -that’s prcisely what I was afraid of.. I want to be able to marry a ben torah. That is why I have chosen to go to college. I don’t want people to look down upon me in shidduchim for choosing to go for this proffession. I personally know it will be’esras hashem be great for me, I am just affraid peer pressure wise since it’s not the done thing.. what do you mean that I obviously don’t come from such a sheltered home??-cause I’m not a teacher?? Not everyone is cut out for teaching and baruch hashem I recognise where my stregths are, So why do I have to be bashed for that?? why should mechaneching kids (teaching) come before marriage?? Isn’t that sort of along the same sort of lines?? What is the definition of a sheltered home??

Also someone else mentioned something here, but I think the mods deleted it: she said something like she/her friend never told her daughter anything about having children until she was up to each stage: I highly doubt her daughter actually was that naive, the way she thought she was. I think the best way to protect children from finding things out in other ways, Is to tell them up front and straight, but obviously don’t go into graffic details.. All children are very curious about life, and they will find out elsewhere in a harsher form, if it’s not told by the people who love and care for them. I am very greatful to my parents for always being open, yes I do baruch hashem consider myself to come from a sheltered home, since my parents discussed it in an extremely parev way, I didn’t have the desire to seek the information elsewhere.. I don’t call it sheltered when kids are not told anything and then they do all sorts of crazy things behind thier parents backs, inwhich alot of kids then get mislead in the wrong directions and this chas vesholom unfortunately leads kids totally off the derech. These parents mean very well for thier children, I think they just don’t realise what they are actually doing, is a higher detriment to them.