aries, what a beautiful story. Just know that I think you have an incredible amount of knowledge in how to live the way G-d wants us to, and even though this “gift” of learning is viewed as only for men, you have your own gift, which is using your sensitivity, perception, kindness, and of course your knowledge, to help me and so many others in so many areas and ways. And that is not a very common gift.
Queen Bee, I’m sure every situation is different, but I was told by my family’s Rabbi that I can learn Torah with my mother. And I do. I learn with her every Friday night after the shabbos meal.