MichaelC: You admitted in an earlier post that your agenda is to get everyone to use Shadchanim. My only “agenda” is to ensure that someone doesn’t twist sources to make Halachah say something it doesn’t. If you want to say that you feel it is inappropriate to meet members of the opposite gender by any way other than through a Shadchan, that’s a fine opinion to have. But don’t misrepresent sources to make it like a Halachah.
Your response to my refutations is “You’re right, they’re not mentioned but it’s obvious that a Shadchan was used.” Just so we’re clear on what this means, you used a source to prove your point but your source is only a proof if you assume your point is always true. Nice proof.