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Time to revisit the issue.

OP, a concerned young member of our kehilla, comes to this website looking for advice. She was upset because she left her job since “there were frum married guys that tried chatting me up.”

BPT, is chagrined at this story. But not because of the “frum married guys” acting inappropriately. Rather, BPT believes that our young poster is somehow responsible for the bad conduct, perhaps somehow having provoked it.

That sound right, so far?

So then, a few questions for BPT:

Do you blame victims in general or only frum girls?

What if “frum, married guys” work in an office with shiksas who are not obliged to follow the Jewish laws of dress? Can they “chat them up?”

Does the conduct of the victim excuse the conduct of men? What does your rav say? I presume he doesn’t say that if a frum single girl in your office doesn’t dress properly you are free to “chat her up” now does he?

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