Try to find out what you can before going out on another date. How well does this shadchan know him? I would tell the shadchan that you had trouble getting to know him; that he seemed to be having an off day and didn’t seem himself (don’t be specific). Try to ask general questions about what his personality is like… Is he quiet, loud, jokey, gregarious, what are his friends like (this is very telling. My sister, who’s very quiet always befriended the quieter girls, I, who am very loud and outgoing, have always befriended the louder more assertive girls who joke more. I think we choose friends who reflect ourselves or who we strive to be). I think his personality is more important than whether he talks about past dates. You can always address that at a later point n time. It’s a bad habit that can be broken. Not so for personality. The fact that you were nice to him on the first date should have no bearing on your decision whether to date him or not. Being nice to him is an expected courtesy. Going out with him again is not. Meet him again if you think you can get more information or can confirm or dispel any beliefs you have about him.
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