I am sorry you are going through this, but Hashem should help you that this should be the least of your problems.
If it effects your shidduchim, then whoever will have a problem with it obviously isn’t your zivug. To let something so insignificant get in the way of going out with someone, you wouldnt deserve them anyway. Don’t be embaressed. The only person it harms is yourself. A Kollel life, as beautiful as it is, is not for everyone. Dont judge them, but try to respect them and love them anyway. If you find it in your heart not to judge them, them maybe you will find your zivug very easily, because you will also find someone who wont judge them. You cant expect something of someone else, if it isnt a part of you as well.
I wish you much hatzlacha.