I know tons of single women in their thirties, forties and fifties. None of them are happy being single. I don’t know enough about statistics to respond to the notion there are more women than men. However, what I attribute to the problem is the notion of being able to do or get better. Working women who are well paid (and who want working spouses, which many do at this stage) will hold out for someone earning more than a decent living. Many men want very thin women (size 2-4) and will hold out for that.
I think 50 or 100 years ago people were satisfied with less. Also, the outgrowth of so many variations of the orthodox in Yiddishkeit, instead of offering more options, has led to fewer appropriate matches.
We are not “maspik b’muat”.
Frankly, I have no idea how to set people up. One of the last shidduchim I tried to make resulted in a poor reaction. The woman agreed to meet the man, and was so upset about the match, refused to speak to me for 6 months afterwards. Gratitude goes a long way, even if it’s off the mark. Also, when people are so picky that they grill me about the match and hesitate, take forever to agree, then want to know more….. Well, it reaches a point where I am discouraged from investing more energy and time.
I think all Shuls should have a data base of singles, so that Shuls can maybe cross reference and help singles to be set up.