peace
the problem you describe is THE nisoyin of our times, before Moshiach. we all are under the influence of the winds of the goyim that wave us like stalks of grain. it takes work to perceive it for what it is, and its not easy. the yetzer ha’rah spins webs of illusion and deceit that appear to be real, this has always been his main weapon. sometimes he even comes with rabbinic degrees.
we have to work on ourselves by learning works of Mussar and through strengthening our Tefillah.