i thought i described what the op was talking about, in my post above, apparently some people still dont understand
basically what he is saying:
there is a lot of influence of goyish values from living in a goyish world and being inundated by their media that all of us, to varying extents, have internalized it and confused it with Torah values. he was lamenting this fact.
to mr kaufman: the issue he was referring to, of the highly unfortunate and rampant internalization and admixture into our Torah values of goyish values, has nothing whatsoever to do with the issue of Mitzvahs and Takanahs that our Sages have instituted.