There’s a neighbor here going through a similar thing.
Unfortunately, you are not alone, either of you. The kehila as a whole is more amenable to dealing with these issues than previously, which should be helpful to both of you. There are frum support groups dealing with domestic abuse. You will probably find them helpful, as outsiders who have not experienced such marriages may tend to disbelieve that this could even happen in our circles.
Hatzlacha to you both and anyone else out there suffering in silence.