“…cornering someone with an argument, that’s partly why I feel like I don’t fit in here.”
MP, you are describing the “out-of-town” personality to a T.
Out-of-towners generally discuss issues respectfully without the need to take the other person down. There’s no need for condescension, insulting, aggression, cornering the other, etc.
It’s actually quite refreshing when you write, and I hope that we all can learn from your style.