” that’s partly why I feel like I don’t fit in here”
You have a point, if you take it (or mean it) personally.
Hashing out differences, arguing fine points, its all part of the fun (and kept clean, due to the mods and members). And when its all said and done, we come away with a better idea of what the topic is all about, and a better understanding of our position. There’s a famous quote: “Once you know the why, you can address the what”
Think of it as excercising. 99% of us will never need to run a marathon, or fight off a hoard of maurading Huns.
But its nice to know you can, if you need to.