Arig, the choice to send to E”Y for seminary was a choice you made as a family. Not everyone chooses to do so. The fact that your daughter is homesick at this time, is not something to be worried about because it is not unusual. The thing to do at this point is not to bite your lips to keep from saying “i told you so” but to support her decision to go. Allow her to vent and reassure her that you miss her as well but you will both survive the separation. Remind her that this is an amazing opportunity and she is just not used to her surroundings. Everything new takes an adjustment period and that even though others might seem stronger than she and are not displaying their emotions, they too feel the same way, they are just dealing with their homesickness better. It is never easy to be away from family during holidays, but what an amazing opportunity to be in E”Y ir hakodesh for the Yomim Noraim. Ask her about the schedule the seminary has planned for them. Ask her about the tiyulim they have planned for her. Ask her about what she has already seen and who the girls are.
Remind her how she had to adjust to sleep away camp and how Mommy had to adjust to her being away from home as well. Remind her that she is a young adult right now, and that this is just the first of the many adventures she will be experiencing in her new adult life. Suggest that she write her feelings, thoughts and emotions in a journal show she can look back on them in a month, two months and further down the line. She will be amazed that she even felt this way or considering going home in a few months time. It will be something you will all laugh about in the future. Send lots of hugs and kisses and remind her that you are always with her no matter where she is.