Toi: A chashuva rov I know would say, “Hey, you don’t lose points for feeling bad for somebody stuck in a difficult situation.”
With much sensitivity and love for our brothers and sisters, we must put ourselves in their shoes sometimes, especially at this time of year. There’s nothing wrong with venting, it’s maybe even HEALTHY to “let it out” (and what better forum then the CR to do so.)
Y’know, I’ll tell you something personal. (Perhaps even too personal.) When I got married the world seemed perfect. I had the perfect wife from the perfect family, perfect chassuna, house, and everything just seemed perfect. Until we realized we couldn’t have kids, without the help from fertility treatments. (After many years, we B”H had a baby.) Until we were blessed with a child, people would make comments to us, some nice, others down right embarrassing and insulting. From the oft repeated “I”Y by you”, to ” it must be hard. I feel for you”, to “Nu, what’s taking so long?”. Comments that people make can really make your day brighter, or C”V literally ruin your entire week.
kapusta, I want to tell you that I feel for you, and with a sincere heartfelt “I”Y by you”, may you see a yeshuah bekorov, with mazel and brocha.