popa: thanks for the laugh! its an old joke in our family (and i’m sure many others) and every time i see that line, it cracks me up!
wanderingchana: thats a good question that has yet to be answered. i work and like many other woman in my position with little children, its hard and as much as i would love to be the sole supporter so my husband can learn full time, i physically cant do it all. my husband learns full time and is on call for his job full time too. He works late into the night so that he can learn as much as possibleduring the day. But, unlike those “better than thou” men who think that they must learn all day and night and leave the burden of working and the responsibilites of bringing up children to their wives, my husband actually cares about my health and sanity. After seeing so many of my friends overworked and hardly having any time for themselves if any, i appreciate my husband more and more…
soleik: i believe that learning torah is very important for the man of the Jewish family/house, but i agree with you that it is important for him to be there for them too whether it means working part time or working full time and learning at night…