The real question is: did she CHOOSE that life because a) she really believes it’s the best life for her b) she was brainwashed c) everyone else is doing it d) she feared she wouldn’t be able to get married.
And btw, your post is contradicting. If you believe that men and women are created differently and have different roles, then you should believe that it’s the husband’s job to support the family financially while the wife stays home with the kids and takes care of the house. (Even if your wife CHOSE to support you).