“They have no choice!”
sure they do. the husband can take on a first, or even a second job. jewish men have been doing so since avraham avinu raised cattle. the chofetz chaim spent a few hours helping his wife in the store. the battle for the man has always been how to balance his torah and his ol parnassa. If his wife accepts this role upon herself, good for her, it does not mean it is the ideal.