“It’s obvious from SA to rather take tzedaka than go out.”
This is implied in 73:1?
73:6 (Siman Vav) clearly contradicts this. Of course a woman has a right to be mochel any “rights” guaranteed by her kesuba, and I suppose the children can be mochel whatever support the father is obligated in too, but the question then becomes, should the wife/mother become the breadwinner (which 73:1 comment of the Tur surely would not be happy with, I think) or should the family rely on tzedaka? You have paskened take tzedaka. What is your source for this psak?