The Goq;
I suggest a different approach. Though i doubt you’d try it. Especially since it may seem counterproductive and against your nature (which you portray in writing)
It may very well be that she likes you, maybe even more,
but the age difference is just too unacceptable to her.
Feelings of the heart are extremely complex, especially to a young
girl growing up, with an older male relative who shes seldom sees.
Don’t bank on a future, or even that she might like you.
Nevertheless, I suggest this time, you try avoiding her.
Instead of trying so hard to be civil to her and have conversation. This time, show her that you have accepted the fact that she can’t stand you, and that you’re fine with it.
Totally avoid her! Don’t exchange pleasantries, no Gut Yum Tov directed at her, just totally ignore her.
But the important thing is, don’t act mad at her or make it obvious that your avoiding her.
Just be happy and animated with everyone as if she isn’t even there. No glares, just smiles and show her that you accept as a mature adult that she doesn’t want a/t do you w/ you,(in body language and behavior that is) and act as if your fine with it.
I can almost guarantee results. At first she will be ultra fuming
at you when she notices it, i would make sure to leave the table
before the HOT soup is served.
But then it should slowly get her frustrated and try to get your attention. She might even try making fun of you.
here’s the thing… since she makes such an effort to show her feelings,(instead of just regular ignoring or avoiding, that means she wants you to feel her wrath and there is anger directed at you for something.
Maybe anger at herself for feeling sorry for you, or inner feelings, whatever it is, if you do this and wait out the storm,
you’ll get to the real reason why she is avoiding you.
If she takes it cool and in stride for a few days, then
she really doesn’t like you, (for whatever reason)
[unless she has an extreme tough personality]
[then she might even find it amusing and it will take much more
more time to for this to be effective.]
[But don’t worry, I highly doubt that’s the case.
it takes a real character to be amused by getting silent treatment in return]
However if she gets even more mad, you’ll know she likes you.
sometimes like a 6yo boy who pushes the girl he likes in the sandbox, cause he doesn’t know how to communicate,
a teen can have the same proactive logic, especially since
proper communication under the circumstances is almost impossible
and may feel wrong to her or embarrassing.
I wish you Hatzlacha, either way, though im 99% sure you won’t try this.
I have experience in these areas….. (silent treatment etc..)
Don’t ask!