Guess what? He still may turn into a talmid chacham. But as much food for thought as this thread will give you, please please contact Project YES, Rabbi Horowitz, Dr. BZ Twerski… there are many good people out there who will help you sort your thoughts and give you a good script.
Meanwhile, plan on how you can spoil him for breakfast (and no strings attached. He’ll be waiting for the other shoe to drop; don’t let it.). That’s probably the best hishtadlus after Tehillim you can do right now.