Lesschumras, I agree 100% with your last post, in that chumras taken that one is not on the madreiga for will lead to kulos and worse ( gemara of mar ukva refusing to wait 24 hours between meat and milk, Rav Dessler, kav hayashar ch. 52, etc).
My objection is when inconvenient actual halachos are disregarded as just chumras.
Which chumras are you apposing?