Reply To: not their fault

happiest: i agree. That is one of the reasons i am delighted to join my husbands ‘guys’, with the kids, when they go on outings.

m in israel and adorable: i hear you. i am hesitant to start explaining the whole issue to them. my oldest is 5. like i mentioned, they are exposed to mentally/emotionally disturbed individuals quite often, but the difference is that they dont yell at or call names to my husband. Its not so much what the brother says, its to whom its said. no matter how much you try to explain it to a child or how much the child understands or not necessarily only a child, a teenager too can be hurt when someone yells at or calls names to their parents. For example, one time i was walking in teh street when a disturbed individual who was passing by me stopped me and said ‘your grandmother, your mothers mother, is stupid!’ Now i know this guy is disturbed and i know he has no connection to my grandmother but i was hurt and started to form comebacks in my mind as i walked away.

2scents: i do want to talk to her but being that it was hard for her to take this brother in and she didnt want to do it but was forced to due to her family circumstances, i dont want her to feel worse about her ‘decision’, like adding fuel to the fire..