I commend you Middlepath on your overcoming hardships you’ve been dealt in life. I am happy for you. And I am also sorry for what you suffered.
I too, have had not an easy life. I cannot share it in detail, but suffice it to say it was sad and hard from childhood in many ways, from which I am still healing.
One very nice approach/ technique called
RAH
R=Recognize
A=Accept
H=Heal
I am still stuck at the acceptance part, as I find it hurtful to my personal self respect and dignity to “accept”. But I am working on it. THen I will be able to fully heal.