I am taking a break from trying to make shidduchim. So tired of being asked by the mother of the boy “Is the girl skinny”? Their very first question and their main priority. The girls don’t ask if the boy is skinny!
Me too. I’m tired of the first question the girls ask is “is he learning?”
What about;
“Is he an oved Hashem?”
“Is he doing his tachlis?”
Even, “Is he a talmid chochom?” (As we know, most girls would say yes to 22 year old planning to learn for 3 years and no to a 25 year old who already learned those 3 years and is going to work now).
Asking if she is pretty is far more innocuous.