“popa_bar_abba: I agree I don’t have that kinda of money either. However a 30 year old living at their parents home DOES have that kind of money. That is the benefit of marrying a older single girl. There is a good chance she is alredy financially established.”
Really? Let me introduce you to the world of the single girl living at home.
I happily pay for:
1)Health insurance: all of it, including copays.
2)all my car expenses, including cost of the car, all maintenance, insurance, title and sticker fees as well as gas
3)All my clothing, shoes including alterations, cleaning, shaatnez testing, etc.
4)cell phone bill
5)all my credit card bills,
6)I WORKED through college, my parents were very generous as to help me through it – but I payed for at least half.
7)All recreational activities, including any eating out or hanging out with frends, all vacations.
8) Traveling to date – and when you live out of town and each tocket can be $200 – $300, it gets pricey.
Now, I do not pay for rent, or for food – so add that to the list of any single girl living on her own,
I’m sure there’s more. I’m not complaining about any of this – you know why? here’s why: Where did all of this bring me? It has turned me into a RESPONSIBLE adult who watches what she spends, and knows what it means to pitch in and help out as part of a FAMILY. THAT is the advantage to marrying an older single.
Please do not make older singles out to be girls who sit on their overflowing bank accounts and have $13, 000 to throw around. That is a gross mirepresentation of reality.
I have a decent savings – even after all of the responsibilties I have taken on. But I worked hard to save that so I would have what to contribute to my future HOME! Please don’t tell me that if i want to see that home, I’ll need to give up my savings. I believe that Hashem can and will help me build one even if I do not shell out $13, 000 to do so.