This letter is to my best friend who lost her first baby at almost a year and a half. This happened a few years ago, but unfortunately, we all know of people that lost someone precious to them
Dear __________,
Its been a long time since we spoke. I dont know what to say to you and i dont know what i shouldnt. The tragedy that happened to you is something a mother never expects and can hardly move on from. Especially so young…
I know you are probaly wondering why I didnt call you yet, why aside for the shiva i didnt visit you. Well, my dearest friend, I have no excuse. When i pick up the phone to dial your number, i freeze and thoughts keep running through my head in big block cap letters: How can i call when things are so good for me? How can I call when i’m expecting my 2nd baby, and had my first one after you? How can i call you when you are having trouble having another baby? Will you be hurt? Happy for me? will you listen to me or just hang up on me? will you be distant and not talk to me anymore?
I cant bear to lose you as a friend! we went through so much together!
I want you to know that i daven for you. not out of pity, but out of a deep yearning that you should have the same happiness that i have. That you should have the same nachas that i have. That you should have children to comfort you and bring you and your husband happiness and fulfillment.
I love you so much, dearest friend, and i want to see you happy again…i dont want to lose you…
Your loving friend,
Now that a few years passed, i can say that my friend did have children and she is happy. we are still close as ever and i did speak to her after about a month of fear, dread, tears and sorrow…