1)To the person who approached their son in law. Just a question – is an art scroll shas now the standard gift. Suddenly we went from buying a $600 shas to a $2500 shas? At least I hope your not supporting your son in law. If he can’t make a lainus on a gemara by the time he is married then he should be working.
2)To those who spoke about ameilus. Why do you define ameilus as going deep in a gemara and breaking your head? Pehaps ameilus means a guy who worked all day in Manhattan, spent 2 hours commuting, comes home and helps his kids with their homework and still makes a seder at night to learn. That also requires effort.