Can someone explain to me how refraining from doing something on account of stringency in halacha can be considered a neder?
In the nussach of hataras nedarim it says “shenahagti sholosh pi’amim” which implies that only positive actions which demonstrate a behavior, like wearing tefillin on chol hamoed, is considered a neder. However, the mere act of refraining from doing something even if one’s intentions is because of stringency in halacha is not a “hanhaga” and should only be considered “divorom sh’belev” and not at all binding.
Would someone consider refraining from visiting YW coffee room three times (when you felt an urge) a neder, and it’s prohibited to revisit without hataras nedarim (like has happened to myself right now!)?!