“Will these new families be less frum than the kollel family?”
“Will the girl..get phone calls for boys looking for support?”
NO, to both questions. But by going off for the “manadatory year” in EY, she is sending a mixed message. One of the soundest pieces of advice I ever heard was quoted by R’ Pam Zt’l:
“Bochurim ask me if I can introduce them to people who can help them with shidduchim. I tell them, the 1st person you need to meet, is…. yourself”
Once you know what you really want, getting it is much easier. If you send out a confusing message, you get mixed results.
Are there quality boys out there, that are willing to work? Sure, but they are “flying under the radar” (meaning, not making the Top Bocher” list). Or have had a bad run in their HS years.
If you (your parents) are willing to look beyond the surface, you can find true value. I am speaking about boys, but the same holds true for good girls. They are out there, you just need to know what you are looking for and what you are looking at.