Bowwow: Coming from a yeshivish environment, i can say that many many girls say they want learners. They wont consider working boys, and they wont consider boys who learn part time. Now that a number of years have passed and there are still single girls from my grade, i’ve noticed a striking change in their quests for the perfect boy. Now if the boy is learning at least part time, they are ok with it. Or if a boy is koveah itim, they are ok with him working full time. Does this mean they ‘lowered their standards’? Or does it mean that they woke up and realized they may not really want to live that lifestyle?
imho, i believe that they only wanted the full time learner out of peer pressure.
This is another of the many many issues with shidduchim nowadays.