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I think the Dr was aiming his article more towards the MO community. However in the frum community this is a new thing and a very alarming trend.
If you asked me I would tell you that many of our problems in Yiddishkeit today stem from a lack of discipline and self control. We have people addicted to food, alcohol, pornography, internet, texting….
The bottom line is that many of today youth have never learned true self control. These things aren’t taught anymore. This used to be what was taught in the mussar yeshivos and by mashgichim. One upon a time bachurim were able to sit by a Gemara for 2,3,4 or more hours without interruption. Unfortunately very few have this discipline today. We are so distracted by phones that people can’t go 30 minutes without checking texts emails and what not.
There’s other factors as well. I think another big factor is that people used to be driven. They were self motivated to achieve to learn to grow to become. I don’t know what percentage of young people live with that fire today. There are very few. This is very tied to the first thing because without discipline one can never get anywhere and accomplish goals. This leads to giving up and developing a defeatist attitude. Once you have a defeatist attitude you feel beaten so what’s the point of trying. So at that point you figure why bother and then you stop caring. If you don’t care then there’s nothing stopping you from texting on Shabbos and doing other things that are Assur. Granted this may be an oversimplication of a complex issue but Im only putting forth some ideas that are off the top of my head. There’s certainly other factors and it is likely a few factors operating at once that has led and leads to the problems we face with our youth.
Granted a lot of the above is geared towards the boys. Im not so sure what the problem is by the girls but it is probably similar in some ways. Like the boys they lack the drive to want to be good to do what’s right and to be special individuals. Ill stop here because I feel a whole megillah coming and I just don’t see see the point of writing all this. Its not going to change anything just get me more frustrated.