If this is your first time dealing with him or her then id give them a bit of a break but in my experience ive found that if you are forthcoming and articulate and clear about whats important to you and you dont feel that they are getting it (which seems to be the case because youre being pushed into something you dont feel is for you)then its a lost cause and youll probably never reach a mutual understanding.
I have coined a phrase and i think its appropriate here and its as follows- “a gut’e shadchan iz nisht einer vus ken reddin uber einer vus ken herrin”. My yiddish isnt the greatest but i think it makes the point. I feel shadchanim develop premature ideas about what they think a particular boy or girl needs and frivolously redd them based on their limited understanding when really they need to listen and establish a complete understanding before mentioning any names otherwise both sides are wasting their time. May you be matzliach and find the richtige bkarov!