K”AH, Lucky for the two of you, it was sth she didn’t regret. sometimes the resentent of being forced into a relationship can backfire resentment in trying times. Every shidduch requires a certain degree of pushyness however it’s important for the shadchan not to do it in a way that is outright obvious.. In a way the sneekier the shadchan the better…I know noone is gonna agree with that..lol:)!! However if you think about it though it carries a lot of truth to it! No partner in a relationship or a potential relationship should feel like a underdog in any way. seeing that you two are inevitably compatible your wife saw the weaknesses in you and that is what made her want to back off, however after seeing the potential in you as a person and focusing on your stregths she was able to build upon that and look past them. This is not always possible, if the two people are not on the same level in a number of different aspects inwhich majority shadchonim fail to understand, and that is precisely where the shadchonim’s force becomes a manipulative gesture as aposed to helping the situation move forward in a positive light.
