The Friday night after my daughter was born, I had a nice party in my house. I served beer, chickpeas, cookies, cake, and other nosh. There were sodas for people who didn’t want alcohol. I got many mazal tovs from friends and neighbors and nobody had any issues with what I was doing.
Excellent. We’ve got a real person to discuss it with.
Feif: Why did you do that? It seems like you deliberately imitated what people do for a boy.
Did you just happen to think that chick peas and beer were the most festive thing you could serve?
Maybe you just happen to enjoy eating chick peas so much. They’re not very expensive-you should eat them more often if you do.
I personally like having a nice kiddush with scotch, shmaltz herring, and cholent with kishke. Maybe that’s why I do that?
Weren’t you trying to give your daughter a measure of parity with boys? Maybe you felt that this would ensure that you valued her as much as you do your boys? Maybe you felt it would help other people realize that girls are as valuable as boys?
Or maybe I’m totally missing the reason. Why don’t you tell us.