This issue bothers me too. I believe college is important and should be an option to all. Why would a BY or Yeshiva discourage their students from going?! I understand that its mixed (although i believe touro has seperate nights, not sure though) or that you’ll have to learn about things that they wouldnt teach you in a BY or Yeshiva. But hey, is the BY or yeshiva agreeing to help pay bills?! Are thye goign to make up the difference that a boss would pay to hire someone with a degree than someone without?
One of the reasons BY and Yeshiva is there is to teach the child torah and show them the right way. They shouldnt dictate a persons life, they should encourage the right way and show them the positive way to go about things. If a BY or Yeshiva is worried about a child changing because of college, could it be that they arent doing a good job?!