The Agudah’s position that only rabonim are quailfied to determine raglayim l’davar is fatally flawed. One, because most rabanim who are not in chinuch do not have the training, experience or insight to make an informed decision, two, mandated reporters generally do have the required knowledge, experience and insight, and three, raglayim l’davar is not a concept that is too technical for lay people to determine.
I have no idea what you are talking about. Assuming, for purposes of this discussion, that you care about following halacha.
The question of when you can be moser someone is a halacha shaila. Of course, anyone can decide how an action fits into halacha by themselves (I do so every time I decide what bracha to make on a food), but people who care about halacha will consult with a halachic expert when they don’t know the halacha well enough to decide.
I personally don’t know these halachos well enough to decide. I don’t think you do either. I don’t think the administration of a school generally does either. Frankly, I have no idea what “raglaim l’davar” even means. (And, as I recall, most posters who seem to be such experts now, were complaining about just that- that they didn’t know what it meant- when it was first promulgated.)
And even if you arrogantly think you can decide it, maybe you should have just a tad of concern that you might be getting it wrong, before you go and ruin someone’s life and family.
(But soliek is correct- the thing that got me going here is the tone of this thread.)