Perception is not only in the way we perceive someone writes but it is also in the way we “read”. When we read a post it is sometimes us who reads the post in a manner assuming that it sounds angry while in fact the poster did NOT write in anger. In many cases it is the reader judging the writer’s tone because of the way the reader perceives the post and not necessarily the way the writer wrote it.
Perception is always in the eyes of the beholder, which may cause a lot of miscommunication. When you read a post that sounds angry and you shoot off another post angrily in response you set off a war of words. This happens because one assumes that the other’s tone is angry or attacking, when in fact the other can simply be telling the facts of the situation and the reader is just reading it with their own emotions and getting a strong feeling about it.
This has happened so many times here on various subjects that are sensitive to different people. Obviously this is a very touchy subject for Health because it is something that hurt him deeply. There certainly is no reason to keep twisting the knife or pry for more details. You are getting into a war of words that is escalating for no reason at all because you are analyzing someone based on the way you perceived a post was written which is nonsense and totally out of line.
Personally I feel that apologies are warranted full circle and the mods should shut this post down because it is going nowhere fast.